I spoke at a legal conference in Utah called Polygamy and the Law. In my presentation “When Polygamy Becomes Trafficking,” I outlined the difference between “free will polygamy” (polyamory) and what I call “enslavement polygamy,” which is totalitarian in nature.Read More »
I am humbled, honored and excited that I was nominated and then selected as one of Las Vegas 25 Most Beautiful People!Read More »
I gave a presentation for media, trauma therapists and survivors at the International Cultic Studies Association conference in Dallas. The presentation was called The Role of the Media in the Recovery, Retraumatization and Empowerment of Survivors of Traumatic Psychological Manipulation.Read More »
The Science of Gratitude | University of Pennsylvania, 2005. One of the greatest contributing factors to overall happiness in life is how much gratitude we show. And a noticeable difference can be experienced with as little as three expressions each day (“Thank you for…”).
Trust, Morality, and Oxytocin. Claremont Graduate University, 2011. Based on research findings, psychologists believe humanity’s trust, empathy, and morality increase as their levels of oxytocin increase. Neuroeconomist Paul Zak explains the simple act of eight hugs a day can increase internal oxytocin levels and result in a happier you and a better world.
For a Better Day, Smile. | Michigan State University, 2011. People who smile as a result of cultivating positive thoughts can significantly and immediately improve their mood. Simply put, one easy way to improve your mood right now is to recall pleasant memories—and smile because of it.
The Dynamic Spread of Happiness | University of California, San Diego, 2008. In this significant study, people who were surrounded by happy people were more likely to become happy in the future. So if you want to discover more happiness in your life, make a point to surround yourself with joyful people.
Kindness Counts | University of British Columbia, 2012. In this study conducted at an elementary school, students who performed kind acts experienced significantly higher increases in peer acceptance. In other words, people who are kind to others are more well-liked. This contributes to their own personal popularity as they help other people.
People who Exercise on Work Days are Happier | University of Bristol, 2008. People’s moods significantly improve after exercising. They are also more productive and equipped to manage stress in their workday.
Is Volunteering a Public Health Intervention? | University of Exeter Medical School, 2013. Evidence suggests volunteering benefits mental health and even, survival. Donating time to causes you believe in not only improves well-being and overall life satisfaction, it is also linked to decreased depression and a lower risk of dying early.
Spending Money on Others Promotes Happiness | University of California Berkeley, 2008. This study suggests that how people spend their money may be at least as important as how much money they earn. Specifically, spending more of one’s income on others results in greater happiness. So go ahead, be generous. You’ll be glad you did.
Well-being not Wealth | Harvard Business School, 2009. While there does appear to be some correlation between happiness and income when basic needs are not yet met, people tend to overestimate the influence of wealth on happiness by 100%. Money does not lead to nearly as much happiness as people think it will.
Experiences, not Possessions, Leads to Greater Happiness | San Francisco State University, 2009. The study demonstrates that experiential purchases, such as a meal out or theater tickets, result in increased greater well-being than material possessions. These experiences tend to satisfy higher order needs, specifically the need for social connectedness and vitality—a feeling of being alive.Read More »
WHAT IS POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY?
Traditional psychology is the study of mental illness: DARK
Positive psychology is the study of mental wellness: LIGHT
Positive psychology and happiness is an EXPLODING field, bursting out bestselling books for a reason.
Before we can be happy or successful, we need to first develop the ability to see that positive change is possible. Only once we learn to see the world through a more positive lens can we summon all our motivation, emotion, and intelligence to achieve our personal and professional goals.- Shawn Achor, Author -“Before Happiness”
A survivor journey with a Positive Psychology framework could benefit from a “guidemap” that incorporates the Positive Psychology character strengths.
The Six Classifications of Character Strengths
1. Wisdom and Knowledge
Cognitive strengths that entail the acquisition and use of knowledge
Emotional strengths that involve the exercise of will to accomplish goals in the face of opposition, external or internal
Interpersonal strengths that involve tending and befriending others
Civic strengths that underlie healthy community life
Strengths that protect against excess
Strengths that forge connections to the larger universe and provide meaning
This week, I am thrilled that I was invited to speak on two different television shows on the intersection of polygamy and human trafficking. This is my odd, narrow, highly-specialized area of expertise that historically only the most passionate activisits cared about, and I am happy that things are finally changing. As far as I know, I was the first person who left a (psuedo) polygamy situation that also qualified for services as a survivor of human trafficking.Read More »
Voices For Dignity is an awareness and educational campaign I founded to help empower women, especially those who have suffered crimes of oppression and humiliation, such as human trafficking, totalitarian polygamy, cybershaming and more (read more about it HERE). Here is my new logo, along with a few variations. What do you think?Read More »
Thank you for visiting my page. If you write to me, I will write back!
I hope you came to this site because you were disturbed by what you saw and thought, “This couldn’t be true.” Your instincts were right.
My son Tim is here visiting from Norway where he is in grad school. He came with his lovely Norwegian girlfriend Karin. Karin told me about Sami – the reindeer herders – and now I am obsessed with it! (And no, I haven’t seen Frozen yet.)Read More »
We had a magical time when Tolga’s family came to visit. The Butterfly Grove, the pacific ocean, the city, and of course, Isla Vista & UCSB.Read More »
Rising pop star Lola Blanc is blowing minds with the trippy music video for her single, “Bad Tattoo,” and RyanSeacrest.com has the exclusive premiere.Read More »
I hesitated posting these because I worried what people would think since people my age don’t normally do this kind of thing.
Here are some photos we did of the stunningly gorgeous, sweet and sassy Kollene Snow.Read More »
Here is a modeling portfolio I put together for Willy Steed. (Actually, there are a few fun photos in here as well.)Read More »
Our friend and (now) model Willy Steed, a former FLDS young man who escaped a life of polygamy and abuse, was featured on ABC’s 20/20 – and they credited us with helping him transform!Read More »
Lola Blanc was featured in a really cool issue of Afterglow Magazine alongside other Hollywood IT girls like Janel Parrish, Audrey Kitching, Kerli, etc.Read More »
Britney Spears ‘ new single is off to a smurfin’ great start. “Ooh La La,”Read More »
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“With a sultriness very much like a young Rose McGowan, her cool voguish looks ensure this Greek Hottie is set for plenty of attention.” — Gorno
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“Los Angeles is full of people that look interesting as a profession, but sometimes the look is about all you get.”
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“Bold and lively, showcasing Lola’s saucy personality, ‘Bad Tattoo’ literally bulldozers it’s way through the pop mainstream and wins over attention with it’s über juicy beats and audaciously bright appeal.” ~ EQ Music Blog
There’s a new pop songstress in town: Los Angeles-based singer-songwriter Lola Blanc is ready to make waves with her new single “Bad Tattoo,” which Idolator is excited to premiere.Read More »
Before Britney Spears releases her in-the-works eighth studio album, the pop superstar will return with “Ooh La La,” a new song featured on the soundtrack to the “The Smurfs 2.”Read More »
Las Vegas Sun | 04-12-13 Land Rover Las Vegas will be hosting “Models For Mutts” which is a fashion runway show with several of Las Vegas’ top clothing designers to raise awareness for the Animal Foundation.Read More »
This is my eccentric, artistic, alien genius geek husband, Tolga. See Tolga in action. Whether it’s developing software or producing music or doing high-end, creative fashion photography, Tolga is truly a great artist.Read More »
The Traverse City State Hospital of Traverse City, Michigan has been variously known as the Northern Michigan Asylum and the Traverse City Regional Psychiatric Hospital. It has for many years been called the “11th Street Academy”. Tolga and I stumbled upon it not realizing what it was, but we were fascinated and felt those paranormal chills. Enjoy the pics.Read More »
This is Tolga, according to Christine, and Christine, according to Tolga! It was at a pre-wedding party, us just goofing off as usual.Read More »
I grew up in Croton Dam, Michigan. It was truly like living in a post card, and the people in my tiny little town were like an extended family. People looked each other in the eye, everyone talked to everyone, and no one locked their doors.Read More »